Going from being a mama of one to a mama of two has meant some big changes for our family. One of the biggest adjustments has been not only accepting, but ASKING for help from others.
Raising two little girls is a big job, and I don’t pretend to be able to do it alone.
There are 4 kinds of people who help me get by:
My husband Jeff is absolutely amazing! He does so much for the girls and I, but he’s not a mind reader. After two kids, I now know how to ask for help and I’m not afraid to admit that I don’t have it all together. We are a team in the truest sense of the word, and he’s always willing to pick up the slack when I simply can’t.
Both sets of grandparents have helped us in a pinch… or two. They are our sounding boards for health questions, our moral support for parenting dilemmas, and most importantly, an extra set of open arms to cuddle our girls.
My “mom friends”
I established a wonderful group of friends who all have kiddos Eleanor’s age. We met at a breastfeeding support group, and have kept play groups going for the past year. It’s amazing to have a set of friends who are all going through the same things as you – weaning your breastfed baby, potty training, pinching/hitting, transitioning to a bed, etc.
They have been an invaluable resource for me and provided a wonderful opportunity for Eleanor to socialize. Many are now pregnant for the 2nd time, so Everly will be meeting her own set of friends in the coming months ;)
My “non-mom friends”
These ladies put motherhood into perspective. Being a mama is a HUGE part of my life, but it’s not everything. My friends who don’t have kids remind me that it’s ok to have that extra glass of wine, to stay out a bit later than expected, and to carry around a purse that can’t fit 5 diapers, wipes, and a change of clothes.
I probably don’t say it enough, but a BIG thank you to everybody who helps me out on a daily basis!
Who helps you “get by?”